Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Sexy Confessions from Two Romance Authors: Guest Post and Giveaway

Posted by Laurielu Bona Fide Reflections at 12:00 AM

Today is the release of:

Bona Fide Reflections is honored to welcome Leia Shaw and Cari Silverwood on such an exciting day. Not only are they guest posting today, but they are providing today's giveaway in celebration of the release of their book.  After the guest post and the bona fide review of 31 Flavors, please complete the Raffelcopter for a chance to win a $15 gift certificate from Amazon, fuzzy handcuffs, and Godiva chocolates.

Do Romance Authors Have Sex? 

Leia's Perspective

I had a conversation recently with a friend I hadn’t seen in a while who had just read my first two books and wanted to know if I had more. The first thing she said, after assuring me she loved them, was, “As I’m reading I can’t help but wonder if the sex scenes are from real life.” As in my life.


Now I’m a happily married thirty year old woman. It shouldn’t be a surprise that I enjoy sex with my husband. That, however, has nothing to do with my books. Do you have sex that includes blood drinking, rolling around on a cave floor, hours of foreplay, multiple orgasms, and a geyser-like explosion of pleasure at the end with a man who looks like Antonio Banderas, says all the right things, touches all the right places, and cares only about your pleasure? Don’t answer that. I might get jealous.

But I don’t know if I want my friends picturing my husband and I doing the dirty (sometimes literally as I have a thing for outdoor sex in my books). First of all, I’m no supermodel gymnast with porn star moves and skin that tastes like honey. My husband is handsome, but his sweat doesn’t glisten over sun-tanned skin bulging with muscle. And if we had sex like my supernatural characters, someone would likely pull a muscle (if not end up in the ER).

Trust me. My books are fiction.

What I will tell you is this: I can describe orgasms because I’ve had them. I can write true love because I’ve experienced it. I have yet to be bitten by a vampire but I did have an erotic dream about it once. Close enough. I can depict a deep connection between two individuals because I’ve felt it. And I can write an HEA because I have one.

So do romance authors have sex? I can’t answer for everybody but I do! And like our book, 31 Flavors, it isn’t always perfect. But that’s not the point. They call it “making love” for a reason.

~~ Please hop on over to Leia Shaw's author website  or her personal blog 
~~ Twitter: @LeiaShaw

Cari's Perspective

Since I write not only fantasy, but BDSM fantasy set in other worlds, I’m even less likely than Leia to have done what happens in my books. I mean, goodness, I have people strapped facedown to the undersurface of horizontal crosses watching the clouds go past.

“The beams under her tilted sideways until she looked at wall, not ceiling, and then kept on rotating until the cross stopped with her looking down at the glass, watching clouds curl past below. The leather gag took the weight of her head, pressing at the corners of her lips.

Freakin’ hells and heavens above. She was upside down, and the only things holding her on were the chains and the straps on her body and spread limbs.”

So, upon thinking for some time and wrestling with my memory, I’d have to say no, I can’t recall ever having sex like that. Scratch that one off the list. Neither have I ever had a bondage picnic after landing my gyrocopter next to a riverbank. Though I’d like to…especially if I get to keep her maroon leather jacket with all the buckles, her tights and brass goggles. I’d also point out that like Leia’s characters, mine tend to have over-the-top orgasms that blur reality, cause volcanic explosions, and sometimes leave the bed smoking. I don’t seem to recall any of those either. 

Damn, what am I doing wrong?

Nevertheless, if stripped each love scene back to the skin and bones of just the people, I guess you could, at a stretch, wonder if there is a basis for what I write in real life. A bit. Lol  Like Leia, I base sex on the sex that I have experienced. Bear in mind that those women who write m/m sex are extrapolating also, and so do I. Most of my books have some of the story told from the POV of the man, yet I’m not a man. Imagination is king.

As long as the sex scenes stir my readers, I’m happy. 

31 Flavors is different however. That book is based in reality. The sex is as close to real as we could imagine it. Alas, Sidney forgot to take notes so the itty bitty details are fictionalized and perhaps closer to immaculate than really happened. We had to take some liberties.

~~ Please hop on over to Cari Silverwood's author website.
~~ Twitter: @CariSilverwood

31 Flavors Book Blurb

There are some things in life you have to try before you know how they will affect you.   After 5 years of awful sex, I was ready. Bondage and spanking had always featured in my fantasies, and one day, I convinced my husband to try them. 

That day was a turning point.  Ice cream comes in many flavors and that’s us too -- not vanilla, maybe not Rocky Road either. We can be a combination or make up our own and no one has the right to judge us. But there will always be one question that tears at my soul: Will my husband, Nick, ever be happy with what I crave?

Bona Fide Review
Terrific Novella!

31 Flavors by Leia Shaw and Cari Silverwood is a poignant journey of Sidney’s sexual awakening and the toll it could possibly take on her marriage if she reveals her predilections in the bedroom to her husband of five years, Nick. This book is very beguiling and written from the perspective of Sidney. Her personality is heartwarmingly organic. The reader is not being sold on a made up feeling person with a perfect figure and beautiful features much like a Barbie doll. Sid is a “real” person with real issues. She is someone you could easily be good friends with. She is funny, opinionated,  and insecure about her sexuality, a lot like us “real” people reading the book.  

Her interactions with her husband are equally endearing and credible. It is due to the organic perspective of a relationship that makes this book so unique, touching, and interesting. Loving someone is not as easy as a lot romance books depict.  31 Flavors paints love, marriage, and sex in a very authentic light. There are ups and downs, happy moments, funny moments and awkward moments in a marriage. It is this common sense, down to earth style of writing that becomes so attractive to the reader. 

Reading this touching story could help other people out there to step out of their comfort zone and ask for what they need from their partners. The BDSM aspect of this book may maybe a tad uncomfortable for some romance readers. BUT the analogy of being able to translate Sid’s situation into the reader’s own life, crosses over into real-life application when it comes to expressing one’s self to a partner. This is a great read whether the reader is seeking an enjoyable erotic story with memorable characters or satisfying a curiosity into different aspects of sexuality.  After all, vanilla is not for everybody. 

Happy Reading from Bona Fide Reflections!!

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(ARC was generously provided by Leia Shaw and Cari Silverwood in exchange for an honest review)

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moonglitter on February 14, 2012 at 5:46 AM said...

Thanks for the giveaway! A girl can always use some chocolates and fuzzy handcuffs! *I may even be willing to seduce MY husband with them after reading this delicious book!!* It was a LOT of fun to read! And it surely has gotten my attention!

Tanya1224 on February 14, 2012 at 6:57 AM said...

I'm so glad you did this post =) I've wanted to ask an author this for a long time. If they actually try the stuff they put in their books. Kresley Cole did one scene in one of her books that had me crazy...I wanted to ask her at her signing and thought better of it...lol It's amazing what you ladies can come up with. Thankls so much for the insight =) Happy Valentine's Day

mrs z on February 14, 2012 at 7:01 AM said...

Read this book as soon as it came out. Very different and for that alone made this special. Very nice post too.

WakeAngel on February 14, 2012 at 7:28 AM said...

This post made me laugh out loud with your answers! I love that you guys get asked crazy questions like that and your responses were great! I needed that laugh this morning!:-)

Magda on February 14, 2012 at 7:31 AM said...

I saw you were reading this on GR & immediately went to the description page. I then realized it hadn't been released! *Pouts* Looks like this book & I would get along pretty well. :)

Leia Shaw on February 14, 2012 at 7:54 AM said...

Moonglitter - Lol! Let me know how that goes ;)

Tanya - A Kresley Cole fan? I love you already!

Mrs Z - thank you!

Wake Angel - I'm always glad to make people laugh

Magda - It's released now!!!

Jennifer Lowery (Kamptner) on February 14, 2012 at 8:44 AM said...
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Jennifer Lowery (Kamptner) on February 14, 2012 at 9:06 AM said...

You ladies have a wonderful sense of humor! Very fun interview and can't wait to read the book! I've critted with Leia before and know she's a great writer! Cari, I'm happy to meet you and can tell by the interview you're a great writer too :)
Thanks for sharing, ladies, and congrats on the release!!

traci16 on February 14, 2012 at 9:08 AM said...

I believe the do...with those imaginations?!!! Thanks for the interview and giveaway!!!

Jennifer Probst on February 14, 2012 at 9:18 AM said...

Congrats ladies! The book looks fabulous and I agree with the posts - I write erotic fiction and it is SO fiction - lol!

suzette on February 14, 2012 at 9:39 AM said...

Thank you Leia and Cari. I truly enjoy your books and finished 31flavors in just a day.

Leia Shaw on February 14, 2012 at 10:05 AM said...

wow! i'm thrilled with the response so far.

Thank for the compliment Jen!

Traci - you are very welcome :)

Jen Probst - Lol! i'm guessing you've been asked a time or two if your stories are based on real life too.

Suzette - thank you so much and wow you're a fast reader!

Anonymous said...

Congratulations and best wishes for much success. 31 Flavors is a very interesting title ... makes me think of ice cream and that brings up a whole other twist. I'll have to add this on my "to read" list. The give away sounds devine ... would love to have the chocolates and gift card ... I already have my own furry cuffs :)~
Gerri Brousseau

Unknown on February 14, 2012 at 1:01 PM said...

Congratulations on the new release, ladies! It always amazes me the audacity people have in what they will come out ask, lol. Just because you write erotic fiction doesn't mean your personal life is fair game for the paparazzi, right? Sheesh, lol.
The book sounds wonderful! A great way to help a lady encourage her husband or lover to investigate something a little more playful and exciting. I can tell you, after 25 years with my hubs, anything I can do to get him to try something fun and new is AWESOME!!
Thanks for the giveaway chance!
Gena Robertson

VanillaOrchids on February 14, 2012 at 1:59 PM said...

Congratulations on the release of 31 Flavors.

What a fun post too. I can't recall that I've ever read any sex scenes and wondered whether the authors wrote from experience. I certainly would not have the guts to ask an author such a question either. Still, I think it's nice that you can be open and honest about it without going into detail! =)

Thanks for the giveaway! What a nice offering.


Sharonda SexxyBlogger SalaciousReads on February 14, 2012 at 3:25 PM said...

Thanks for the giveaway and the answers...awesome ;0 love love loved it all. I couldn't even imaging doing most the stuff I read about in some of the books I read (not to say my sex life is boring), but I can't imagine hanging upside down...knowing me, I'll probably pass out lol!

Barbara on February 14, 2012 at 3:30 PM said...

FUN post...congrats! Thx for the giveaway op...Happy Valentines Day <3

barbbattaglia @ yahoo.com

Ronda (Queentutt's World of Escapism) on February 14, 2012 at 5:30 PM said...

Hello Lovely Ladies!, Awesome Post and great answers you both gave to the question if you based your stories from your own sexual experiences.

As an author I am sure you get all kinds of crazy questions but if the readers would just stop and think about how everyone on earth has sex somepoint in their lives and they all experience different feelings.

I think it shows true talent when the author can take their own experience with feelings and use the connection with their characters even though some of the acts of the characters may not be something the author has experienced.

Happy Valentines Ladies and congrats on your book.


Cari Silverwood on February 14, 2012 at 5:42 PM said...

@Ronda and @VanillaOrchids, the amazing thing is that some authors have even been told they must be, to use a polite term, promiscuous, if they write erotic stories.
The best response to that is:
I also write murder, mayhem and world domination by (take your pick) - vampires, zombies and werewolves...maybe you should start running. lol!!

Thecrazygranny on February 14, 2012 at 7:03 PM said...

i loved your answers to the question. I can say I was one who wondered too. LOL. We would all be dead if we had sex like in the books. looking forward to reading this book.

Cari Silverwood on February 14, 2012 at 7:07 PM said...

OMG @Thecrazygrannie You just made me snort. So unladylike :)
Indeed we would be dead, but perhaps extremely happy in our last moments.

mbourn on February 14, 2012 at 7:16 PM said...

That is a question I have always wanted to have an answer to.... Thanks!
Even If the scenes are fiction , it is always something to strive for... *giggle*. A girl can dream!!'
I have been following on FB since learning about 31 Flavors. I love this book!

Suzanne on February 14, 2012 at 7:20 PM said...

Great interview, funny answers. I got the book, just getting ready to read it.

Ava on February 14, 2012 at 7:34 PM said...

Great Interview...Totally loved 31 Flavors!!! Chocolate and handcuffs.....now that could be a valentines to remember!

Kelly @ Reading the Paranormal on February 14, 2012 at 8:01 PM said...

Fuzzy handcuffs?? OMG! You guys rock!

Linda Henderson on February 14, 2012 at 9:43 PM said...

I enjoyed the interview very much and am very intrigued to read the book. Thank you so much for the excellent giveaway. Happy Valentine's Day.

seriousreader at live dot com

June M. on February 15, 2012 at 1:08 AM said...

I always think it is silly assume that authors have personal experience with what they write. Many people think that erotic writers have personal experience with their subject matter. They don't expect that authors of paranormal are or know vamps or shifters or demons. Sci Fi authors are not from outer space. So why do they think that authors of sexy stories base them on their experience? Do they not know what 'fiction' means?
The story sounds great, a realistic story of the couple's explorations.
manning_j2004 at yahoo dot com

shadow_kohler on February 15, 2012 at 2:10 AM said...

Congrats! Your book sounds hot and yummy! Definitely one im gonna get! ;D Thanks for sharing and letting us celebrate with you! And thank you for the awesome giveaway! I wish you all the best!

Leia Shaw on February 15, 2012 at 6:43 AM said...

thanks everyone! glad to see i'm not the only person thrown off by the question. though i remember thinking when i first started reading romances, "i wonder if the writer does that in bed." Lol! before i started writing and knew better.

latoya on February 16, 2012 at 9:04 PM said...

Thanks for answering this question. I was curious whether authors do the things that show up in their books.